CHANGES

As human beings how capable are we of change??
If someone tells u they don't like something about u.. Do u even acknowledge the fact that the person might be right!! Mostly the answer to that in my case is ...a bigggg NO !!!
If anybody tells us that a certain thing about us is not right.. Or is not according to a certain way of the world.. Or let's just say is unconventional ... We disregard it without giving it a second thought...
I speak out of personal experience that I don't appreciate anybody ( no matter how close the person) pointing out my flaws in my face!!! But why???!!!
Firstly, Why would somebody expect to change something about u??? N secondly, wat kind of a super human are u.. That u get offended if somebody does so.. ??!!
I know admitting to ur short comings , ur flaws, ur disasters in life( sigh) is very difficult.. ...!! There is atleast a hundred kilometers distance between knowing that u have a flaw n accepting that u have a flaw...
I know um not good at this one thing.. But am I walking that extra 100 kms to accepting it and doing something about it??!!
Ur flaws can be very big or very small..
For some it might be an unhealthy lifestyle which many take for granted..
For someone else it might be the constant need to cheat and betray their partner !! Both are flaws and both can be corrected .. ONLY the first one hurts just u ( honestly u get fat n u get heart attacks..nobody els) but the second one hurts others such as the person being cheated on n the multi persons being cheated with..!!
So flaws are multi-dimensional n multi -layered .
I am not here to judge.. But if I can get this I guess anybody can.. That change is good for life.. Change is not bad..
Wen someone tells u they don't like something about u.. Don't get offended n melodramatic ( ie:why can't anybody accept me as I am!!! )
But just give it a thought.. And if there is any weight in wat that person is pointing at then ACCEPT it and CHANGE it..
Getting rid of ur flaws only makes YOU a better person and nobody else..
If ur my age (or around it )and ur dad tells you exercise n move ur ass a little.. Then do it... There is nothing wrong with wat he's saying.. He only wants u to be a better person ..dont be so rigid and disregard wat ur parents n friends tell u.. Atleast give it a thought..
Being rigid has not gotten anybody anywer.. One has to keep his/her mind open to new things and new possibilities..
The earth is round and not square and you won't fall off if u walk to the corner!!!
So learn to accept change at a young age.. If u can adapt according to problems it doesn't make u shallow.. It only makes u a more sensible and a more -grounded to reality -person
So LISTEN..ACCEPT and ADAPT..
I'm not asking you to switch ur basic principles in life.. And um definitely not saying pick up a drink (la di da!!) n change cuz all ur friends are drunks....!!!!! Hellll no!!!
Um jus saying ACCEPT n WORK on ur flaws .. It's never too late to start a good thing n change a bad habit ;)
Feeling intellectual ,,,;; I am this morning.. ;) am not turning into an agony aunt?!! Am I ??!! ;)